Principle 2 Its been a long time since my last post. Life is moving faster than the speed of light. I'm learning how to deal with two in college and one on her way to the Marine Corp. go figure. Well lets cut to the chase, as we consider how to raise boys to men, keep in mind God has created them to be valued. Which leads me into the next principle.
Besides from knowing they belong, they also need to understand that they are also valued, God gave us the perfect example in the gospels, When Christ was baptize by His cousin, God affirmed Him by saying before everyone that this is my "Son whom I love and I'm pleased with Him." The first point- acknowledgement in front of the public. If it was good for God, then it should be good for us. Just imagine our sons receiving praise before their friends, and family. Once we value our boys they will mature into the young men we want them to be.
So make sure you give them praise when they do good things and give them mercy when they don't.. I look forward to sharing principle 4 next time. I'll try and get it to you sooner than later.. Thanks for your support, see you soon...
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Thursday, September 8, 2011
The Power of a Name.
In my last post, I spoke briefly about my children, and how uniquely different they were from each other. Each one had and still do different motivational triggers. One may respond to a touch, another to words of affirmation, another to rewards, and there were a couple who responded to a variety of these love languages.
However, there was one thing they had in common, their last name! Our name provided the foundation for emotional, mental, and spiritual development. What I'm saying is, I was able to instill in them a sense of belonging and expectations. On many occasions, I expressed my satisfaction of them and said, " that someday they would carry on the legacy of being a Bell." When they were younger, I would constantly say how our name meant something and we had to live up to our legacy.
The very first thing children in general need to know is that they belong and are loved. We also need to establish age appropriate expectations as part of the belonging to the family.
When God express His satisfaction of Christ it was well known, even until today. He simply said, "this is my son whom is pleasing to me." His words acknowledged belonging. It also established the response of Christ saying, " I do all things that pleases the father." Just imagine our children thinking like this. Would they make better choices about their lives? I dare to say YES!
In closing think about this principle.
Principle #1- Children need to know who they belong to, and that they are loved.
The next time you speak to your son or daughter let them know that you are satisfied with them being a ....... whatever your last name is, and that they are loved. And you will start to build your family legacy.
See you on the next post.
However, there was one thing they had in common, their last name! Our name provided the foundation for emotional, mental, and spiritual development. What I'm saying is, I was able to instill in them a sense of belonging and expectations. On many occasions, I expressed my satisfaction of them and said, " that someday they would carry on the legacy of being a Bell." When they were younger, I would constantly say how our name meant something and we had to live up to our legacy.
The very first thing children in general need to know is that they belong and are loved. We also need to establish age appropriate expectations as part of the belonging to the family.
When God express His satisfaction of Christ it was well known, even until today. He simply said, "this is my son whom is pleasing to me." His words acknowledged belonging. It also established the response of Christ saying, " I do all things that pleases the father." Just imagine our children thinking like this. Would they make better choices about their lives? I dare to say YES!
In closing think about this principle.
Principle #1- Children need to know who they belong to, and that they are loved.
The next time you speak to your son or daughter let them know that you are satisfied with them being a ....... whatever your last name is, and that they are loved. And you will start to build your family legacy.
See you on the next post.
Monday, August 29, 2011
A Father's Role to guiding His Son to Authentic Manhood
I remember the very first time I looked at my first son Jemel. I wandered what type of man he would become. Would he be good, loyal, faithful, caring, or would he be driven, determined, self reliant? I really didn't have any idea of how to raise him, that was 33 years ago.
Since then there has been four additional sons as well as four daughters. Oh boy, didn't I learn a lot about my children. They have different personalities, passions, and motivations.
And over those 30 plus years, I have learn some principles that has helped in discovering my children personality styles, passions, and their motivation triggers, especially for my sons. These principles have been the foundation for launching three sons, two daughters, into the world as we know it. And currently there's one on the launching pad..
I would like to share these principles with fathers and mothers who want to raise Authentic men.
keep posted as we discover these principles together..
Since then there has been four additional sons as well as four daughters. Oh boy, didn't I learn a lot about my children. They have different personalities, passions, and motivations.
And over those 30 plus years, I have learn some principles that has helped in discovering my children personality styles, passions, and their motivation triggers, especially for my sons. These principles have been the foundation for launching three sons, two daughters, into the world as we know it. And currently there's one on the launching pad..
I would like to share these principles with fathers and mothers who want to raise Authentic men.
keep posted as we discover these principles together..
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